Barungu Nyawira

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Feel, connect, satiety

Take a minute, breath. Now take another and wipe off your sweat, we’re just at the beginning, we are not in the middle yet.
One cannot fully take pleasure without giving it, and every gesture, caress, every touch, that glance and every last bit and part of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to awaken it.
We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm, or a better relationship. Sex comes in a thousand different flavors. You’re not always going to have the right conditions for intimacy and that is okay. With a closer look you’ll find that to most people, sex is just about getting off, and other times about stress relief. With no effort and pressure added on your partner, these moments could emerge more often, even ‘naturally.’
It is attachment; you get affixed to them and that other person, in the moment gets to be the determiner and influencer of pain taken to pleasure granted. You drop your guard around and for them because just like most things involving more than one party, sex is a two way traffic. You give as you get. It’s more of an attention act; you’re getting intimate with someone, leave a mark. You explore them like they’re your last. Be into the deed and love their body like you’re hanging onto goodbye. Exploit all passions, all the untouched and unexpressed emotions, making it the most real and best of bed ordeals.
Minimize disruption: A buzzing phone or trying to be silent so as to be quiet is not the ideal situation, try set up yourselves up for success by creating a distraction-free, comfortable and inviting atmosphere.
Being more vocal is a great way to usher yourselves into the present moment. Give sentiments like; ‘wow, this position is hitting all the right spots for me.’ Express feelings too; ‘I love having sex with you or I feel so close to you right now.’
Eye contact is one of the fastest ways to feel intimate. Looking each other in the eye and having them return your gaze can be deeply vulnerable and connecting experience. When you try new things, it naturally prevents you from going into autopilot. Pay attention to what you’re doing, walk each other through it. It prevents boredom. Change positions; some are more conducive and intimate than others.
Have it, that after a celebration of intimacy, you two should not part without admiring one the other, without being conquered or having conquered so that neither is bleak or glutted, that none has the feeling of being used, or even worse, misused.

Let’s get cosy.